FRIEND – One word six letters used to refer to a person whom genuinely cares for you or at least that’s how I look at it. Arguably one of the most misused word in the world on a day to day basis. Ultimately when push comes to shove, it comes down to friends as being people we can trust despite the title that may precede, who do we trust? Cause ultimately even family are just friends we can trust.
I don’t put hoes over homies or vice versa instead if you treat me right I will in turn treat you right. My heart holds no space for unjustified treachery. Above all things, I value loyalty and respect; I respect the most a man who stands for what he believes in even if he is one and as long as he is smart about it without rebellious tendencies towards correction. I’d go cliché and tell you what kind of friend is the best but I’ll do you one better and insight you on not being afraid to pick your friends wisely.
Every so often life is cruel and it rips humans off all joy they hold dear. Strips them of all hope that binds us together. The cold hand of karma goes up your ass and reaches in till it grabs your soul, squeezing it so hard you are no longer a mere reflection of your bouncy self. When you lose a parent or a relationship ends, when you get sacked from work because of a reason you can’t understand, when you lose a child to an unseen accident or when your life plunges into years of peril and you feel alone then trust your friends to hold you down and help bare the pain. To give you a hand when you feel you are just out of reach. Your friends will be the ones who don’t abandon you cause they see past the hate, envy and judgment and completely understand the anguish cause they know how it feels to be human too.
I know we all have those friends who’ve been down for us since day one-ish. Those friends who vowed to be with you till the very end and you vowed the same. An unspoken bond that makes you family. It’s a common misconception, especially among the females, that friends have to support everything you do if not then they are not true to you but that is so outdated. I believe a friend should be able to stand on the other side of a decision and you should only measure their loyalty based on where they are when it goes to shit. To put it in perspective, an acquaintance the other day had her nudes leaked for the world to see and yeah I feel for her. No human should ever go through that but I don’t shy away from telling her that probably she was too mean too extra when she shouldn’t and thus it is only a consequence from her actions. I’m sure though that she probably feels like I’m enjoying her suffering. This brings me to the million dollar question today, if I’m not okay with how a friend goes by things does that make me a bad friend or is it when I abandon them in their time of need?
Sometimes events in life happen and friendships are tested and just like that childhood friends go their separate ways but why? Is it because we are slaves to our own egos and can’t put them down for a minute and tell our friends we are sorry and we miss them or is it because at the core of all human souls there is selfishness fueled by a need to survive or maybe just maybe the world has been too harsh, too rigid and there is no remorse, mercy or forgiveness left in our hearts? I really wonder, I’ve lost people I didn’t think I’d ever lose and some of them were like family and I miss them and they hurt me but I can’t tell them. Maybe it’s cause I didn’t do nothing wrong.
Some of my friends have stood by me, through the rise and the fall. They have had my back since day one and I love them for that. I would probably go to hell and back for them if they ever asked. First of all they are loyal and we know most of those humans don’t know shit about that and that is why when I get there, if I ever get there, I’m gonna spoil them. Need their hair done, I’d fix it, want a new phone, id get it cause all id ever do is spend all my money with them. I don’t want to ever lose them. I salute them cause my gratitude will always be beyond words.
You see everything that I’ve been through I ain’t about to start acting brand new. Real friends, I only got a few and if any of them ever ask if I got you I’d like to think you already know what that answer is. Still got them haters asking questions like if the people I’m down for are down for me and I say Hell Yeah Fucking Right. I just hope when I’m older and I ain’t thinking about me, my wife and kids will be my friends till the end of time but don’t you forget that best friends do really make great for enemies cause you really can’t have enemies till you had friends same way you can’t know hate till you had you some love.